Before we get started you should know that this post has nothing to do with owning material things. You see the things we possess in life may be nice however, they will not give you the mental strength or mindset to get everything you want in life. Material possessions can only provide some definition as to what you enjoy and the lifestyle you like to live. A handbag, a luxury car, a high-rise apartment in a high-powered metropolitan city only shows people one side of your whole being.
There are a number of factors that achieve mental toughness. The one I will discuss here is owning your sh*t. I’m sorry if you don’t agree with the messaging of this topic but I use profanity at a time to get my point across. Ok moving on. The topic of ownership is critical because the only things that we have direct control over in our entire lives are our action or reaction. Did you get that? These are the only 2 things we truly have control over in our lives. These 2 things provide the baseline of how you feel, how you think, how you love, and how you look.
Before we begin to dissect these 2 areas I need to take one step back for there is something you will need to do before you tackle this space. You need to become aware. Every day we move through life some in the present, some of us on autopilot, and some of us in the space between. However, in order to make a true change in life and up a level in any area, you need to be willing to become consciously aware of exactly what you are doing.
There are several ways to practice awareness, the one most often talked about is through meditation, however, exercise is another great way to practice awareness. I practice awareness both ways and each work so find a ritual that works for you. Once you practice awareness and identify exactly what is going on, then you can make the decision to own your sh*it.
Often times when I mention accountability and responsibility people either sweat, state that they are ready for the change, or actively participate in making the change. The difference is how you want to feel in your end state. I’m a huge fan of Danielle Laporte and she has some great books related to this topic. You see you can think all day long about what you want to do but it’s not until you identify and assume how you want to feel nothing will effectively happen.
So what does this mean? It means being completely honest with yourself. It means owning up to your mistakes, taking total ownership of your action in uncomfortable situations, and continuing to do the work no matter what. No excuses and no scapegoats included. Once you begin to get real with yourself, you will finally understand what it truly means to stand in your power and become your authentic self.
Why do you want to do this?
- Moving from a 5-figure to a 6-figure salary in one year.
- Changing careers even while they had not formal training in their new field.
- Moving from the cubicle to the boardroom.
- Creating and launching their own business.
- Growing an existing business into a multi-product empire